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My wife is not beautiful...polygamy, welfare and sex

Muslim says mistresses are the French way of life.

PARIS—A Muslim Frenchman at the center of a firestorm over polygamy said Monday that keeping mistresses is the French way of life.

His wife, a 31-year-old Frenchwoman drew nationwide attention last week to a driving fine she received for apparel that hinders her vision. But it soon emerged that her husband may have four wives—although it was doubtful the marriages were made official under French law. Interior Minister Brice Hortefeux wants to revoke the French citizenship of the driver's husband if he is found to be practicing polygamy. The man is also suspected of profiting from state subsidies for single women provided to each of the wives.

Authorities are looking into whether the Algerian-born Lies Hebbadj was married to four women in French civil ceremonies, which would be highly unlikely. Were he married in religious ceremonies by imams in Algeria or in France, these unions would not count as marriages under French law, said Rabah Hached, a Paris lawyer who specializes in immigration issues. In that case, each of the officially unmarried women could potentially receive state aid for her children.

For the attorney, the law may be on the side of the allegedly polygamous man.
"It's not forbidden to have a mistress," Hached said by telephone. While stressing he does not know details of the case, Hached said that "I strongly suspect this gentleman we're talking about is within his rights."

Hebbadj, defended his lifestyle Monday by turning the notion of polygamy on its head.

"If we are stripped of nationality, for having mistresses," Lies Hebbadj told reporters in Nantes, then "there would be a lot of French people stripped of nationality. As far as I know, mistresses are not forbidden, neither in France, nor in Islam."

I hope the prosecutor reads that last sentence. Islam forbids a Muslim man from having a mistress. The Quran is clear; a Muslim can only have sex with their spouse although Hadith allows Muslims to have sex with their slaves.

Which is better, to be a slave or a fornicator?

If the women testify, they will have to admit that they are his slaves or, admit that they have committed one of the worst crimes in Islam…illegal sex. And if that’s the case, then 3 of the wives and the husband should be tried again under a French Sharia court. Wouldn’t that be interesting? Lashings and stoning.

As for him, the Quran forbids Muslim men from taking secret wives, so he’s also off to the hellfire. If you live in France, maybe you could pass this on.

5:5 (Picktall) ‘…when ye give them their marriage portions and live with them in honor, not in fornication, nor taking them as secret concubines. Whoso denieth the faith, his work is vain and he will be among the losers in the Hereafter.

I think every non Muslim country should have an Islamic scholar for the Infidel to consult with when radical Muslims try to abuse the laws of the Infidels.

And what do the scholars say about Muslim men who ask for financial support from the Infidels?

The Muslim should be keen to earn a living from halaal sources by working with his own hands. He should be the one who gives and spends, not the one who takes and asks, especially if he is asking for money in a kaafir (Infidel) state.

Abu Hurayrah saidThe Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The best of charity is that which leaves you still independent of means, and the upper hand (the one that gives) is better than the lower hand (the one that receives), and start with those who are under your care.”

Non Muslims should strive to help Muslims be the best they can be by denying them free social services.

A Muslim asks a scholar

My wife is not beautiful!!
I have been married for a few years. During the first two years I was happy with my marriage and I loved my wife, but after that I started to feel that I disliked my wife. That is not because of religion, because she is religiously committed and has a good character, praise be to Allah. Rather it has to do with her beauty, because she is not beautiful enough to keep me chaste and make me lower my gaze.
I am afraid of mistreating her because I do not feel happy with her and sometimes I frown at her for no reason.

The problem is that I cannot marry another wife because I am not financially able. I thought of taking a loan in order to marry but then I would be living in poverty because of the loan.

I have thought a lot about divorcing her and letting her go in kindness and replacing her with another, but I have children from her and she loves me a lot. I have thought about this a great deal and it is disturbing my sleep, because I do not know what to do. What should I do, may Allah reward you.

And the scholar replies (short version)
Praise be to Allah.

The problem you have is not with regard to marrying a second wife, or divorcing your wife. The problem, as you mention, is a financial problem. So long as you are not able to marry another wife, then you should keep the wife with whom Allaah has blessed you.

Whenever you are able and have the financial means, and praise be to Allah that He has permitted plural marriage to you… In my opinion that is easier for a woman to bear than divorce, especially since you have children from her.

May Allaah help you, protect you and make you steadfast in following the path of goodness and truth.

I don’t think that would be his opinion if it was the wife who was looking for a better looking husband.

And this was just funny.

A Muslim asks a scholar

Should the bride and the groom both be present at the blessing of their marriage?
And the scholar replies

Praise be to Allaah.

If what is meant by “blessing” is the contract itself (‘aqd), then the groom and the guardian (wali) of the bride must both be present, because the ‘aqd can only be done with the proposal of the guardian and the acceptance of the groom.
But if what is meant by the “blessing” is the wedding party which is held on the occasion of the wedding, then it does not matter if the couple do not attend. Shaykh ‘Abd al-Kareem al-Khudayr
So, a bride doesn’t need to show up to sign the marriage contract and, neither the bride or groom has to attend the wedding, what about the wedding night?

According to scholars….

‘It is not obligatory for the man to have intercourse with his wife on the wedding night. They may delay that until the time that they choose’

And how often should that be?

Ibn Qudaamah al-Hanbali said: “Intercourse is a duty on the man, the husband should have intercourse with his wife – so long as he has no excuse’ and ‘so long as it does not weaken him physically or distract him from earning a living’.
I wonder if that ruling was after the invention of Viagra.
Ibn Qudaamah al-Hanbali said: “If he has a wife, he should spend one night in four with her, so long as he has no excuse.”
The other 6 nights he should sleep in the dog house…which of course, would be outside.

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